Here at find the words, we want to help you do just that. We believe that you are the best person to tell your story; we're just here to help you put into words the thoughts you want to express.


Our Story

find the words currently consists of just me, Amanda Lerner. I am a PhD candidate at Yale University, and I married my husband Jim on October 1, 2016. I have always loved writing, both creatively and academically, and I found it easy to put into words all of my favorite parts of our relationship. I naively assumed that the process of writing your own vows was that easy for everyone; it was only after my wedding that I heard from many people about how difficult they found writing their own vows. Some of my friends admitted they had stuck with traditional vows, simply because they couldn't figure out how to put into words what they were feeling.

After some digging, I found that there seemed to be two solutions to this dilemma: either give someone a few details about your relationship - the name of your partner, 2-3 'fun' memories, three adjectives you would to describe him or her - and have a boilerplate vow spit out 'customized' to you; or else you could hire a consultant to write every bit of writing in your wedding for you. While either of those approaches may work for others, it would not have felt right for me. And so, I've created find the words - to work with you to take what you have, and help you find the words to make it perfect for you.